Friday, August 19, 2011

It's Okay To Say "No"

Okay, I hesitated to put this out there and I won't go into too much detail (because I don't want to) but I have had a tough few weeks. I took on a costume design project (which is the sewing project I mentioned a few times) that was just too big for me. That's hard to admit. I've designed costumes for 30 years and have a degree in it and worked on Broadway and shit and I've always pulled through. This time I had to quit.

Dying 15 yards of fabric on my porch. Eccch.

It's kind of a family legacy to worry a lot and feel really guilty about everything. But honestly, I just feel relieved. Because of that project I was also dropping the ball on my other jobs and commitments. My driver's license expired and I didn't realize it. Bills didn't get paid (yikes). I still have tons of grading to do. I was overwhelmed and nobody benefitted.

I see this as a big life lesson. Is it a coincidence that it happened right when I was turning 50? I don't know.
Here are some things I've learned though:

1. It's okay to say "no"
2. I'm not doing costumes again unless I have a shop, a good budget and a crew. And probably not even then.
3. Time management is effing awesome (I've heard)

There's probably some more stuff but I'm already starting to bore myself. zzzzzz I tried to take outfit photos today but there was a little snafu and now it's dark. I will say I got some pretty amazing things from the thrift store which I will be wearing soon. (hint: leopard swingy trench-YES!)

I'm finishing up the Powerpoint for the Museum presentation tomorrow.  That'll be fun.  I hope you are all well and taking good care of yourselves.


  1. Leopard swingy trench?! Where is this magical thrift store you speak of? (Probably not Tulsa.) Glad you have reduced your stress load. Sometimes I think that the ones asking us to commit to a project without proper resources shouldn't be surprised when they have to find somebody else to do it.

  2. Hooray for saying No and not feeling guilty. It's a relief. Time management . . . interesting concept.

    Show us the trench, pls!

    Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

  3. Good for you!

    Looking forward to seeing that leopard trench...

  4. I hope things get better for you. Life is too short to be stressed out. I learned that the hard way. Be happy and please share that leopard thingy!

  5. Yep, I get myself in over my head at times too. I really would like to see the powerpoint of your presentation.


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